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When I started my research on this topic my idea was to group together the 9 to 12 year olds. As if they are all very much alike. Because I have a 10-going-on-11 year old daughter, I truly enjoyed all the in’s and out’s of her emotional development. I also discovered that each age have it’s own steps towards adulthood. Each age holds something special in store and I find it impossible to group a 10 and 12 year old together. So, hop on for the ride into the heads of these wonderful, challenging creatures in our lives.

Between 9 and 12 years of age a child starts leaving childhood behind and get a glimpse of what being a adult is about. During this time they gather information about adulthood and make up their minds whether adulthood is something to be desired or not.

Around 9 kids still have some fears for things like snakes or being chased, but those are becoming less intense.  Peer pressure becomes a big issue and friends are very important. Critical thinking starts to develop and they become critical of themselves and others. When a nine year old gets upset it is mostly with him or herself. Self-confidence may be very fragile.

Overall they are anxious to please authority figures like parents and teachers but  also start to drift towards being more independent. Therefor they  occasionally belittle and defy adult authority.

Mood swings still happen from time to time but at 9 they are able to overcome negative emotions more easily.Meltdowns happen less frequently. Nine year olds begin to be aware of right and wrong and have a huge issue about fairness. They normally accept punishment if they feel it is fair. When faced with a unpleasant task they often use physical complaints to opt out.

Nine year olds are very sensitive to criticism and do not lose gracefully. They get a lot of satisfaction from their sense of responsibility in the family and naturally wants to be good. They still verbalize and talk about their feelings and fears.

When faced with trauma a 9 year old will most likely be very critical of the role he played in the event. Criticizing himself for not preventing it or changing the outcome.

Because friends and peer pressure plays a big role a 9 year old will probably deal with trauma better if he feels part of a group that struggles with the same issue.

A 9 year old will be very sensitive to the reaction of authority figures (parents and teachers) to their trauma.  A 9 year old will display the same behavioral fall-outs as 7 year olds when exposed to trauma.

2 Responses to Emotional life of 11 year old

1. rotary laser levels says:

   October 7, 2010 at 3:12 am

   I utterly enjoyed reading about Emotions of 9 year olds | i Lead Children's Health | South Africa and think it was well worth the read. The only other site I found on Google wasnt as good as this one, thanks.
2. Amanda says:

   November 20, 2011 at 10:39 am

   Can a blood disorder cause children’s depression?

   Amanda

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